A fresh post after a relatively long time…this one has its roots in a rather funny occurrence from yesterday. I was working on my laptop and copied some text from one document to be pasted into another. And for a full 2 seconds, I was searching like crazy for the Control key, which happened to be right under my fingers. It was almost as if it had suddenly worn an invisibility cloak… 😀 After I “found” it, I couldn’t help laughing about how silly I was not to see something which was right there in front of me.
And then it struck me – isn’t that exactly what happens to us many a times in our daily life? We simply don’t see what we can control, and instead keep killing ourselves over things which we can’t. We can go on and on and analyse a lot about what we can control and what we can’t, but I feel very strongly that it can be summed up in one simple sentence. People who know me well enough will immediately know what I am about to say – We can never really control someone else’s actions, we can only control our own reactions.
This might sound a bit escapist to some, because we so much want to be in control of our own (and sometimes, someone else’s) lives. But come to think of it, isn’t that really true? Most of what takes place in our life is dictated not by what happens to us, but by how we react to it, not by what life drops in our lap, but by what we make out of it.
We may not be able to control whether people give us the respect that we (think we) deserve, but we can surely keep doing our best and see that respect coming our way one day. We can’t undo an unfavourable exam result, but we can definitely do better next time. Whether or not someone wants to be a part of our life, is not something we can force, but we can stills live another day and have a smile on our lips. 🙂
All it really takes is one simple thing – accept that your control key does not work on other people’s systems, it only works on your own. Make the best use of it, and you will be good. Of course, there will be times when you will be left searching for the key, and you might even feel that nothing’s working. But I say this from experience, it works, and works beautifully. You just need to believe that it does. 🙂
This one has been a short post, because there is a sequel coming up, which will take this very thought forward. If I pour out everything in one single post, you guys are most likely to use Ctrl+F4. 😉 So I will call it a day here…adios!! See ya soon.
Manish Raje said:
Nice one buddy. Looking for the sequel.
Makarand karkare said:
Well said. If everyone realized this, world will be such a great place to live.
Deepti Gurav said:
I would like to share a note on this. The things happening to us plus (+) the way we react back makes our destiny. In this 10% is the triggering factor that haapens to us, and 90% depends on how we react. The finals India v/s Sri Lanka was a good example..we lost 2 wickets this what happened to us (10% factor), but the team were dedicated (90% factor how they reacted to the fall of initial 2 wickets), they fought back without loosing confidence. And the results we all know.
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