After writing about the best love story I have ever seen, I am back with…yes, you guessed it right…yet another love story. Can’t help it – love is something about which I can write any time, anywhere and trust me, I can go on and on. 🙂
Contrary to what some would expect, this is not about my love story. This is about a love story which I only got to know about a few months back, and which has stayed with me ever since then. This is the story of Samarpita and Sankalp, who celebrate their fourth wedding anniversary today. This post is meant to be my little contribution to the celebrations. 🙂
I came across Samarpita (Sam) on Twitter a few months ago during the course of an afternoon of random handle-hopping. Like I normally do, I checked out her blog, and liked what I found. She writes (and thinks the same way too, as I discovered later) quite sensibly. Of course, she has her share of dramatic moments, but then that goes with the territory I guess. 😛 I haven’t interacted with Sankalp yet, but if he is anything like how she describes him, he has to be a pretty sorted out guy. Now this is one story I haven’t seen closely, so I will not be going into the details. What I will be focusing on instead, is how it makes me feel, and what it teaches me.
Firstly, and most importantly, it reinforces my belief that anything worth having in your life, is worth fighting for…to the very end. It might be one thing to expect things to fall in place just because you think you “deserve” to have that person in your life, but the fact remains that nothing good in life has ever come easy. We may crib about how life makes us work our backside off to get what we want, but do we ever pause and enjoy the awesome feeling when we end up with someone we want to be with? To put it simply, if you want to be with someone, be prepared to go the extra mile, and more, to be with them.
Just because two people love (and want to be with) each other, life isn’t going to say “Oh how sweet!! Here…let me hand you a pair of wedding bells. Enjoy your ride into the sunset”. It is going to make you work hard for it, make you prove that yours is not but a fleeting dream, it is a strong determination to have that person by your side. It might pull you apart in the process, but if you stick to your guns, it is definitely going to put you back together on that ride into the sunset, and throw in a nice orange hue over the horizon, on the house. 🙂
While you are on the way to your destination, there will be times when you will feel like giving up, and justifiably so. Things will seem so bleak that it would seem like a lesser evil to just give it all up, and fall in line with what you are supposed to do, and not what you really want to do. This is your moment of truth, and it will separate the “we did it” stories from the “we could have been” ones. Hang on to each other, to yourself, with all that you have. If it is meant to be, it will bloody well be. 🙂
We are used to being a certain person, behaving in a certain manner all our lives, and obviously find nothing wrong with it. However, there will be times when you feel that you being yourself is not working in favour of the relationship. This will be one of the biggest questions you will have ever faced – whether to change yourself for the sake of someone, or to stick to your “individuality”. There are many ways of looking at it, but all I will say is this. If making some changes to who/what you are makes life easier for both of you, and makes the other person feel valued, go for it by all means. There will still be people who will tell you not to change at all and that the other person should be able to accept you just the way you are. Let them live in their utopia – you are the one trying to make a real life here. 🙂
So…finally all went well, and the bells chimed for you. Yay!! Now to settle down into holy matrimony, and enjoy life forever after…right? You couldn’t be more wrong. There is a reason why all those movies end with the couple getting married, and it is this – would you really pay to watch the heroine adjust with her new family, or the hero get up and go to office, wondering how the girl he loved has transformed into the woman he has married? 😀 Movies are about suspension of disbelief, life is about real belief. As simple as that. Most of the times, marriage is just the beginning of a greater story, one that is going to be written over a lifetime. Just like you enjoyed the prologue, enjoy the main act. It will seem like survival at times, but get this one thing clear – If, every morning, you are getting up next to the person you want to, you are extremely privileged. Be grateful for that, and do whatever you can to deserve that privilege.
Like I said before, I can go on and on about this, but then, this is not about me. This is about you, S and S. 🙂 And I will say this, your story not only inspires me, it gives me hope. A hope that life is surely going to smile for me some day, and I will be there, beaming right back at it. 🙂
No..I haven’t forgotten what this post is basically about..hehe. Wish both of you an awesome fourth anniversary, and may there be at least 40 more. Of course, more the merrier!! 😀 What say?